Ah, practice, practice. I'm still getting my timing down. While I try to do as much as possible
ahead it seems I'm often scrambling to the finish line. And I'd set the table in advance, but people in this area are notorious for last minute cancellations. Last month I had a dinner party and 4 of the 8 people dropped out in the last HOUR. "Oh, you got my message, right?" Grrrr.... Because this happens so frequently, my housemate was like, "Remember not to double your recipes."
The reality is, most of my knowledge is in theory, not in practice. I've taken a ton of classes, had a massive cookbook collection (recently culled), and rubbed elbows with lots of chefs, but actual cooking on a regular basis is new to me. For almost 10 years, evenings? If I wasn't at an event (often 5 nights a week), I was in a cooking class. On the nights I was home, I did little more than fried egg sandwiches.
I've done dinners for 100, but quickly realized I cannot be cook, server, and host. At home I'm trying to be all those things...and the house cleaner. Oof!