You're right on about marketing - that's the whole story. Look at Godiva and Haagendazs, and of
course, Fran's, and countless others that are so successful, mainly because they have tons of money behind them and brilliant marketing. Don't even get me into this, because it's a real sore point with me, and hits home directly and very deeply, due to my own depressing involvement with the "arts," ie, the music business, which has very little to do with music and real talent, but everything to do with business, plus other unsavory things I can't mention (yes, I'm bitter), but all I can say is, if more people and products with quality had the money and marketing expertise behind them, well, we'd have more people and products of quality in the mainstream. Period. Or maybe I'm being naive and it has to do more to do with the mainstream's opinions of what's good and what isn't so good, as opposed to the minority, which will always lose out. Probably a combination, but I still think most of it has to do with marketing and hype. If the general public is told enough times that something is great, most of them start to believe it.
As far as feeling guilty about admitting you don't like Theo's, etc., you know, everything is so subjective, so why should one feel guilty about anything? There really is no reality to most things - very little is fact, most is opinion, and we're all entitled to ours, as long as we don't degrade anyone for voicing theirs, and as long as those who voice their opinions don't insult anyone else. Easier said than done, right? I find Europeans much better at healthy dissonant discussions. (By the way, I've admitted this to very few, since I'm afraid I'll be lynched, but I have never liked Julia Child. Shhhhh).
Anyway, I've never tried Theo's, so I can't give an opinion. I will say, however, that I hate Valrhona, El Rey, E. Guittard, and Michel Cluizel, which are some of the top chocolate producers. I respect those who like these producers, but I refuse to hold back about the fact that I don't like them, so I will mention it when appropriate at egullet, and in the same breath, I'll admit (and this is a "disgrace") that I LOVE Ghirardelli bittersweet 60% and semi-sweet for baking, (although, I don't like them to eat out of hand), and that I've had consistently great results baking with them, and making ganaches, etc. The egullet people probably think I have a peasant's palate, but who cares? I know my palate is sharp, and I respect my own taste, even if no one else does. LOL. I tend to like a darker roast when it comes to chocolate (and coffee), etc., so I go with it. Some chocolates I love eating out of hand are Santander Columbian 70%, Chocovic Guaranda 71% (Ecuador), and Fiori Sera 65%. I've tried other chocolates by these producers (with lesser percentages or from different cacao bean sources), and wasn't impressed. For example, Chocovic Ocumare (Venezuela), tasted like dirt to me, but the Guaranda was delicious. Many, if not most people seem to prefer the Ocumare. As usual, I'm in the minority. I generally, though, dislike chocolate from Venezuela - again, in the minority. After all, it's considered the "best in the world," isn't it?
A good way to check on the chocolate/sugar ratios, is to look at several recipes that you've made, which have a deep chocolate taste, and compare them to new ones you're considering. If you bake enough chocolate stuff, eventually you'll recognize what's going to be more chocolatey and what's going to be too sweet for you. I can generally tell, but sometimes I've made BAD mistakes, and ended up throwing out the whole mess, wondering why I chose it in the first place. Sometimes the technique and ingredients look right on, and the end result is a disaster. Who knows why?
I'm sure there are many chocolates which you like and I don't, and vice versa, but who cares? It makes for an interesting conversation. Same thing with wine - I've had people recommend so many wines that they've loved, and many times when I tried them I hated them. It's amazing how everyone's palate is so different.
Meanwhile, too bad we can't speak in person - we could go on for hours - or days!
Later,
Meryl