music-city-missy
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and you all are sort of a secondary family that I am so thankful for. It just seemed like the place to come sharewith all of you. I just didn't think that the Wegener's Granulomatosis was going to get her this time. She was doing so much better after three weeks here in Nashville and I had a gut feeling sending her back to Mississippi wasn't the right thing to do. Within 48 hours of going back to hospitals there, she was in critical condition and within 5 days they were saying she wasn't going to make it. She hung in there almost three more weeks improving a little each day and only took a sudden turn for the worse last night and again this morning. I guess I am in shock because I saw her leave here on the mend. She was only in her 50's with so much still to live for - oldest son married with two kids including a new baby, middle son a BRIGHT medical student that got engaged when she was in the hospital here, and 18 year old daughter that also just got engaged.
But she loved cooking. Wen my uncle started dating her and she brought all these wonderful 'new' foods to family gatherings, I knew I wanted her as part of the family. They weren't fancy foods, they were simple but they were different and good. She loved it when they came to Nashville to see her specialist because I would always fix something 'different'. I'll never forget her calling after she got home one time because she just had to have Gretche's SIL Sausage Corn Chowder recipe. Or that I had to get up and bake a Souther Apple Pecan cake for her to take to the doctor - we found that taking a cake to the doctor and his staff worked REALLY well at getting them to remember you and help take care of you. In fact when I called their office to tell them she had passed, the receptionist immediately knew who she was and remembered her as being so sweet and bringing them cakes.
I fixed her Pappa e pomodoro soup two nights before she went back to Mississippi and when my uncle called me to tell me they had messed up the arrangements to transfer again and they were staying another night, he said she wanted to know if I could bring her more of that soup and some of the pepper jack pimento cheese croutons so I fixed up some and headed to the hospital one last time. I just never thought it would be the last time to see her or I wouldn't have hurried so much and messed up those croutons.
But there are also some things to take away from this - don't under estimate what food means to folks. But also, be an advocate for your health. If you get something, research it and take control of it. It's the one thing I tried to show them how to use the internet and connect but they didn't. I don't know that it would make a difference in the long run but I just wish they had paid more attention and taken more control.
But she loved cooking. Wen my uncle started dating her and she brought all these wonderful 'new' foods to family gatherings, I knew I wanted her as part of the family. They weren't fancy foods, they were simple but they were different and good. She loved it when they came to Nashville to see her specialist because I would always fix something 'different'. I'll never forget her calling after she got home one time because she just had to have Gretche's SIL Sausage Corn Chowder recipe. Or that I had to get up and bake a Souther Apple Pecan cake for her to take to the doctor - we found that taking a cake to the doctor and his staff worked REALLY well at getting them to remember you and help take care of you. In fact when I called their office to tell them she had passed, the receptionist immediately knew who she was and remembered her as being so sweet and bringing them cakes.
I fixed her Pappa e pomodoro soup two nights before she went back to Mississippi and when my uncle called me to tell me they had messed up the arrangements to transfer again and they were staying another night, he said she wanted to know if I could bring her more of that soup and some of the pepper jack pimento cheese croutons so I fixed up some and headed to the hospital one last time. I just never thought it would be the last time to see her or I wouldn't have hurried so much and messed up those croutons.
But there are also some things to take away from this - don't under estimate what food means to folks. But also, be an advocate for your health. If you get something, research it and take control of it. It's the one thing I tried to show them how to use the internet and connect but they didn't. I don't know that it would make a difference in the long run but I just wish they had paid more attention and taken more control.
