Dinner at the Foodies’: Purslane and Anxiety

I agree with everybody here, especially Steve2, but I also have found that it's important,

once in a while, to have a simple potluck, or barbecue hot dogs, or just order pizza, so that your friends know that you really do eat such things, and so they also know that you value their company beyond an audience for your cooking. They're more likely to reciprocate, and it also gives you a well-deserved break.

 
Okay, wait. My experience is...co-workers can be worse...

I live alone. I like to bake. The office was a perfect place to bring leftovers.

I worked in a financial institution approving $1M+ loans. My pipeline was bigger than all my other co-workers and I was in hot pursuit of the corporate ladder.

When I really got into baking, something shifted. When we had birthday cakes at the office, people insisted I was on the only one capable of cutting the stupid thing.

Then my supervisor, knowing I used to work in restaurants, started saying things like, "You really should be in a restaurant!" I thought that was a compliment until the president of the company started saying things like I'd lost my calling...and "my place" was in a restaurant.

Hmpf. I had more dedicated clients and annually did DOUBLE the number of loans any one of my peers could do. As if I couldn't be a talented analyst AND enjoy cooking for fun. Somehow, at some point, they couldn't separate the two.

Have any of you experience this?

 
It sounds like there was some jealousy going on, or the "stop making us look bad"

thing. People don't like it when one person outperforms the group.

But I have had people who know I like to cook assume I'd always be willing to do the cooking, every time, at my own expense. After all it's so much FUN for me, right? That gets tiring.

LOL, are you telling us they expected you to cut the cake even if you didn't bake it?

 
It's too late now, but you might have said, "I'd love to, but my wrists are sore from the $20 mil

in loans I typed up after hours yesterday."

 
Grrr, that's what has happened to me in my DHs family, and I don't know why it irritates me so much,

but it does. I've made it a point to suddenly become unavailable when the cutting ceremonies are imminent. smileys/smile.gif

"Watch me magically disappear when the final note of Happy Birthday is sung..."

 
Great ideas Lisa & Joe! I finally realized that with the president callin' me "waitress"

he was never going to think of me as a VP, so I moved on. Hindsight being what it is, I'm so glad I got the &*#@! out of there....

 
If you're happy I'm happy, but I hope you let 'em have it on the way out....

I'm thinking flying Costco frosting rosettes, and maybe a spatula.

LOL, I'd last five minutes in the corporate world, tops.

 
Sweet revenge? Oh yeah. The chick I worked under...didn't bonus for 3 quarters after I left! LOL!

 
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