I really shouldn't be laughing but the Thanksgiving drama has started already
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My Mama's it is!
Now my antisocial Dad is pissed off at Mom because they'll be spending the week cleaning house and he'll have to put up with having company...Joy to the World!
Now my antisocial Dad is pissed off at Mom because they'll be spending the week cleaning house and he'll have to put up with having company...Joy to the World!
Gotta say I'm with your Dad this year. First I was going to hold the whole big, 14-item
meal...then that got down-graded to pot-luck with me making the turkey, mashers, stuffing and dessert...and then THAT got down-graded to me making a turkey for sandwiches and everyone else bringing appetizers to have a "tizer" party.
Then after the GBH collapsed and I was remaking it again, I called the main guests and told them I wasn't up to anything except reservations.
There is so much glitter on EVERY SINGLE SURFACE in my house that--while it would look great by candle-light--I'd be ashamed of it otherwise.
meal...then that got down-graded to pot-luck with me making the turkey, mashers, stuffing and dessert...and then THAT got down-graded to me making a turkey for sandwiches and everyone else bringing appetizers to have a "tizer" party.
Then after the GBH collapsed and I was remaking it again, I called the main guests and told them I wasn't up to anything except reservations.
There is so much glitter on EVERY SINGLE SURFACE in my house that--while it would look great by candle-light--I'd be ashamed of it otherwise.
melissa-dallas
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I know. I told her I would have been happy to just save extended family for Christmas
but she & her brother and sisters wanted to be together since it is the first since their dad died.
but she & her brother and sisters wanted to be together since it is the first since their dad died.
music-city-missy
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Same here too Melissa - drama drama drama. I am ready to just leave town!!!!
My cousin from hell (and I really do mean that) and his wife came up to 'surprise' his younger brother several months ago. Now he has decided to surprise him again and bring the family - wife, two small kids, their father and our uncle. He just invited himself up - he did call his brother's wife but told her NOT to tell her husband, yeah right! His brother tried to make him even madder at him so he wouldn't come but it's not working. And he's planning on coming up early and planning to come over to my house. He's not welcome. But how do you tell someone that? And he's dangerous (psychiatric drugs combined with lots of alcohol, stupidity, massive strong body, temper, and guns), abusive, manipulative, vulgar, chain smokes and drinks. And worst part is that in avoiding him I risk offending or alienating my uncles.
If my daughter didn't have to work the day before and after Thanksgiving, I think the three of us would pack up and go somewhere but I don't want to leave her alone for a holiday so I just don't know exactly how to handle this. I moved away from my family in Mississippi in part because of drama like this and even with his brother up here since 2010, we have avoided all this until recently. I could just scream. Ever since I found out about it earlier this week I have been chewing on the inside of my mouth and stressing.
My cousin from hell (and I really do mean that) and his wife came up to 'surprise' his younger brother several months ago. Now he has decided to surprise him again and bring the family - wife, two small kids, their father and our uncle. He just invited himself up - he did call his brother's wife but told her NOT to tell her husband, yeah right! His brother tried to make him even madder at him so he wouldn't come but it's not working. And he's planning on coming up early and planning to come over to my house. He's not welcome. But how do you tell someone that? And he's dangerous (psychiatric drugs combined with lots of alcohol, stupidity, massive strong body, temper, and guns), abusive, manipulative, vulgar, chain smokes and drinks. And worst part is that in avoiding him I risk offending or alienating my uncles.
If my daughter didn't have to work the day before and after Thanksgiving, I think the three of us would pack up and go somewhere but I don't want to leave her alone for a holiday so I just don't know exactly how to handle this. I moved away from my family in Mississippi in part because of drama like this and even with his brother up here since 2010, we have avoided all this until recently. I could just scream. Ever since I found out about it earlier this week I have been chewing on the inside of my mouth and stressing.
melissa-dallas
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Aww, Dawn, I'm sorry.
Our asshole uncle who we had to get a guardianship on granddad to protect from is back in the picture. It is all I can do to be in the same room with he and his wife and be civil.
Our asshole uncle who we had to get a guardianship on granddad to protect from is back in the picture. It is all I can do to be in the same room with he and his wife and be civil.
How to avoid him--tell him you are not prepared to receive him at this time. If he shows up on the
doorstep, tell him through the closed door that this is not a good time. Don't answer the door or the phone if it's him.
I know this goes against all your instincts as a hospitable southerner, but you don't need a reason not to receive someone that you haven't invited. People like this don't deserve your good graces.
If it gets back to your uncles, tell them you were having "women's troubles." Forgive me for that cheap shot but it works-- it's generic enough to include anything, and it's something uncles cannot argue with.
doorstep, tell him through the closed door that this is not a good time. Don't answer the door or the phone if it's him.
I know this goes against all your instincts as a hospitable southerner, but you don't need a reason not to receive someone that you haven't invited. People like this don't deserve your good graces.
If it gets back to your uncles, tell them you were having "women's troubles." Forgive me for that cheap shot but it works-- it's generic enough to include anything, and it's something uncles cannot argue with.