and to those of you on ebay, what's with all the "handling" charges?
these people act like they're running a Lord & Taylor or something. When this started happening, I developed the following system:
If I see something I want to purchase, I decide how much I'm going to spend, estimate the weight, and look up the shipping charges with the USPS.
I then contact the seller and state that I'm interested in bidding on their item, and that ***MY*** terms to make a purchase (purchasing and being a customer is not having terms of surrender being dictated to you by a seller) is that I only pay for actual shipping charges. I ask them if they accept my terms and a potential customer for their item.
If they respond no, then I thank them and tell them that I will not bid on their item. If they say yes, then I have a written agreement that I hold them to if I win the auction.
The majority of the time, the seller agrees to charge actual shipping rates without a "handling" fee and I generally save $5-10 dollars from the "advertised" shipping rate.