I've actually done this a lot with another community
What we've found works best/fast for cash is if the person (Pat) to have a PayPal account email, then hopefully a PayPal debit card for easy access. (Once in an emergency when someone didn't have PayPal we had to get someone's bank acct # and make a deposit, but most folks would not want to give that out.)
As an alternate we've gotten someone nearby that collects $ via PayPal and meets up in person to hand over the donations. Typically this is how we've done it. This way someone can't shy away from it and folks indiv giving amounts aren't revealed.
If we want to send her something other than cash, (here's hoping she has a house at her address) maybe gift certificates for food/drink, gift cards to Target/JCP/etc (she'll need undies!) a de-stress massage?