Totally NFR: What do you do when you've asked for a Christmas list

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cynupstateny

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umpteen times and still don't have it? I have a grandnephew I see about once a year. I send b'day and holiday gifts. Never hear whether he received or liked them. He's only two. I do not send cash as gifts but have no clue what his likes are or his size.

Rant for the day'

 
Send him a book! That is something you are an expert at, right? ; >

If there is no response to your request, a book is always a good thing for a little one.

Michael

 
Sad that the art of the thank-you note is dying...

A book would also be my suggestion, but I'm a huge fan of thank-you notes, so I would probably take the "Dear Abby" tactic and call about a week or two after you send anything, saying innocently, "Oh, we just wanted to make sure you received it, since we didn't hear anything." I think the hope is that this shames the recipient (or recipient's parents) into not taking thoughtful gifts from family and friends for granted...

But then I'm kind of a jerk that way. smileys/wink.gif

 
Isn't it?! Especially with wedding presents when you spend $150 and have it shipped from the store

never knowing if it arrived.

 
Yes, I had a family member (whom I really don't know) get married to a man from New Delhi

in her home state of WA. We were unable to attend but their wedding website had a Target gift registry which I loved because I could get the happy couple things they requested. That was four months ago and I have not heard a thing. Yet, the registry said that those items had been purchased and sent.
I thought it strange that there was a check box to have the gift sent directly to the couple instead of her parents home to an unknown location!???

 
Have you ever asked if the boy received his gift and how he liked it?

I get so irritated when I mail packages to grandkids and I never hear if they got them or liked them. I started asking every time I sent something and finally the parent is having the children call me to say "thank you" and I then can ask if they liked it. I usually take that time to inquire what they like at this time, what are they playing with and what do they want for the next time I send something.

It is so frustrating and just another indication that the "hand it to me generation" is for real!

 
You're not a jerk, Erin. I've tried that many times but it doesn't work with these folks.

The sad part is that they're not readers either.

 
Hey YA! We got a little boy a fireman's hat once. It had a huge HUGE siren attached to it. The

neighbourhood really loved that one. He did too. If you have anything you want to retaliate for with the parents, that will do it.

 
I have a question. When is a verbal thank you enough? And when is it not? I used to write

thank you notes and the reaction I got was a scoff and over the top/eager beaver treatment. If anyone appreciated the thank you note, I never heard it. So I stopped. I don't want to be rude by the omission but frankly, my feelings were hurt over this thank you note business. (Is that a West Coast thing?)

Then again, if Bill Clinton still writes thank you notes, I can too. smileys/smile.gif

 
I think a thank you note after a dinner party is too much. That was an eastern thing but I think

it's dying down now.

And sending a thank you note for a sympathy note seems over now too. A note to say thank you for the note to say thank you for the note to say sorry. It can go on and on.

But I sure think that if someone does something special, or makes something special as a gift or the wedding gift event, or flowers, it still deserves a written note. I guess just basically the efforts that are beyond the everyday. Also for the kind of dinner that Richard seems to make every second weekend that is clearly a whole lot of work and a serious dedication of time. And by the way, I'd love to have the occasion to write Richard a thank you note.

And I had 2 west coast people here send thank you cards for a lunch that I had made for each of them. I don't think it's a continental issue, just that everyone is different.

I always email a note after a dinner.

 
I write thank you notes whenever it feels 'right'

whether it is for a gift, a dinner, or even just someone being extra kind. Alw

 
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