I totally agree, keep it simple. You can easily achieve this with your $25 and maybe have leftover $
Much of your menu is already intact and not part of the $25 budget.
Beverage: lemon-lime-ade with vodka
Protein: ham
Cake or Fruit Salad: in-laws
So, all you really need to round things out simply are....
Side dish
Rolls or sliced baguette (if using)
Condiments
Either cake or fruit salad, whichever the inlaws don't bring
Done!!
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Condiments: mustard and mayo (you don't need much though, for 14 people)
Side dish, choose 1 (or even 2 if funds permit): pasta salad, baked beans or cold bean salad, coleslaw (see my surprise coleslaw at the link, makes alot), jello salad, potato salad. All of these can be inexpensive to make. Shopping the grocery specials that week can guide you.
Instead of a fruit salad you could do 14 skewers of assorted fruit: watermelon, grapes, cantaloupe and/or strawberries...whatever fruit is on special that week, even canned pineapple chunks work well. Keep it simple...you can get away with just 2 fruits alternated on the skewer...cheap yet nice presentation. I'd stay away from bananas or apples or other fruits that discolor easily.
Another possible side: deviled eggs, everyone likes these and a dozen eggs are cheap and will yield 24 halves.
You might also consider cupcakes in lieu of cake and if you're the one doing the cake or cupcakes, they can easily be made the day before, saving you time the day of the shower. And/or make the cake ahead then frost and decorate the day of the shower for best/freshest-looking presentation.
I'd say skip an appetizer or pre-shower nibbles unless someone asks what they can bring...that's where I'd have a list of possible fill-ins that folks could bring if they offer. These items can serve to round out the offerings but aren't really necessary and won't put you in a bind should someone not show at the last minute, or arrive late (it happens). But I'd say be specific about what you'd like them to bring, instead of saying "whatever you'd like to bring is fine". That way you don't end up with 2 pasta salads, should that be one of the sides you're already providing...you know what I mean.
Have fun with the shower, Dawn. Best wishes to everyone, especially your daughter. I hope she has an easy delivery and speedy recovery.
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