NFR-I'mNotSureWhatTodoHere

This reminds me of the fake letters college kids used to write to Dear Abby. Preposterous idea they

have! I'm with the Hell no, but actually Cathy Z's is great.

 
What Cathy said. And the statement has to be final. "We are not set up for kids" or

"We are not able to accommodate a child" period, and not "We're kind of busy with work right now," or "Larry has bad allergies that time of year" which would leave the door open.

 
And I would add that I love kids, especially ones I can have a conversation with, but a 6-month-old

with diapers and round-the-clock feeding is just way too much to ask anyone to take on as a favor.

 
Bless you ALL for not judging me. Snail mail brought a family photo

with the added note: "Little M can't wait to meet her American Adopted Grandparents Marilyn and Larry in person."

What's that witness protection phone number again.

 
Don't do it. Tell they you love them dearly, but you don't have any baby skills to fall back on.

A friend had to go back east to deal with a custody issue of her two girls. We had the girls for 2 1/2 weeks. It's been 13 years since we had anyone that age in our home for any length of time. And we only had one child. These girls were 8 & 9 and were fairly self reliant but still, it was a LOT of work. A six month old baby? They are NOT self reliant. They cannot tell you anything. They make a series of noises that you use to guess the issue and then, by process of elimination, work to figure it out. But sometimes there is NO answer. If you were closer to them (geographically) and knew more about the baby's day to day, hour by hour, routine it might work. Since that isn't the case and they want to add in the crazy mom I'd tell them you'll tied up with work, out of town, kidnapped by aliens, hospitalized having plastic surgery, witnessed a mob hit and going into witness protection ...

 
I'm actually laughing at this now. It's all so ridiculous but then I read how's Joe's Bowl party

turns into a 'bring all your relatives and children and we'll babysit' event. How we can spin off one tale into another here. I must be getting tired.

You all are just silly.

 
I'm wondering if you're more worried about how to handle Larry

with this. I think you know how you would deal with this but sense you and Lar are not on the same page? That's actually tougher if that is the case.

 
all eyes point to yes

What Cathy said above was spot on, quick to the point, not open to discussion, wrapped all up with the love to see you parts.

One thing I've found is if you share any reason why you can't do something, people tend to come up with arguments against them. Then you have to fend that off. Not good. This recently just popped up for me and it wasn't pretty - so don't go there.

Also, if crazy grandma is to "take care" of the bebe, why is she bringing said bebe and herself down to your house to do it? Color me confused.

I'm in the "oh, hell to the no" camp, because this seriously is asking a lot.

Note: The thing is, you really are starting to think of them like family -- they're becoming annoying!

 
So sorry, we'll be away at our estate Mar-a-Lar-go

code for: where Marilyn an Larry go - to get away, and possible stay in hiding till the coast is clear.

 
A look on the bright side: you would get to say "I told you so" for the rest of your lives.

 
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