I'm so sorry to have to post this terrible news.
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cynupstateny
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Lou had children who she chose not to get in touch with, she had family in NY who she chose not
to get in touch with and there were church groups and bereavement groups that called her and invited her places.
I think that Meryl was just totally lost without Lou and nothing was going to help.
I just don't want the folks on this site to think they could have done more to help her.
Just my opinion
to get in touch with and there were church groups and bereavement groups that called her and invited her places.
I think that Meryl was just totally lost without Lou and nothing was going to help.
I just don't want the folks on this site to think they could have done more to help her.
Just my opinion
I'm sorry if I what I stated was incorrect; it was my understanding based on talking to her.
She had said she had no one whom she was really close to aside from Lou.
I didn't at all mean that we could have helped her further; I don't think it would have been possible at all. My apologies if that is how it sounded.
She had said she had no one whom she was really close to aside from Lou.
I didn't at all mean that we could have helped her further; I don't think it would have been possible at all. My apologies if that is how it sounded.
cynupstateny
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Please forgive me if my post came across as nasty, Deb. I truly did not mean it that way.
marsha-tbay
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Shocking and saddness. I still have Meryl's email giving this site new addr & Randi's email re cats
Good golly....I feel as if I've had the wind knocked out of me. I corresponded w/ Meryl via
snail mail for a couple months after she lost Lou. Then she quit writing so I figured maybe it was too much for her to keep up. But by that time she was back here at the Swap and seemed to be coping better with such a big change in her life.
When Cyn asked earlier this month if anyone had heard from Meryl, I looked up her telephone number & called a couple times, but no answer so I merely figured she'd gone on vacation somewhere. I thought it a bit odd that she hadn't mentioned anything to us about taking a trip, but I never dreamed for one second that she was at the absolute end of her tether.
May God bless her. I never met Meryl in person, but always enjoyed her posts and appreciated her vast chocolate knowledge. I have made several of her tasty recipes. I pray there is chocolate in heaven for our friend, Meryl!
PS: Cyn, a million thanks for thinking to call the police and then for tracking down a neighbor. If I ever need a PI, you'll be the person I contact!
snail mail for a couple months after she lost Lou. Then she quit writing so I figured maybe it was too much for her to keep up. But by that time she was back here at the Swap and seemed to be coping better with such a big change in her life.
When Cyn asked earlier this month if anyone had heard from Meryl, I looked up her telephone number & called a couple times, but no answer so I merely figured she'd gone on vacation somewhere. I thought it a bit odd that she hadn't mentioned anything to us about taking a trip, but I never dreamed for one second that she was at the absolute end of her tether.
May God bless her. I never met Meryl in person, but always enjoyed her posts and appreciated her vast chocolate knowledge. I have made several of her tasty recipes. I pray there is chocolate in heaven for our friend, Meryl!
PS: Cyn, a million thanks for thinking to call the police and then for tracking down a neighbor. If I ever need a PI, you'll be the person I contact!
heather_in_sf
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Oh Meryl, how devastating. First Randi and Meryl (((wiping tears)))
heather_in_sf
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I still use the jar that her chocolate sauce came in, it still has the label
and it makes me smile every time I see it...
and it makes me smile every time I see it...
mariadnoca
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"I just don't want the folks on this site to think they could have done more to help her."
mariadnoca
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PSA: Something to a take away from this....
Folks, one of you is going to die first. It might not be you. Prepare for that. Prepare for it if you're single, too, because somebody's going to be left dealing with the fallout.
Please plan financially and otherwise, for a life without your spouse - I've read/been told by therapists the death of a spouse is considered the most traumatic thing anyone can go through and trust me, after the fact you'll really appreciate you'd planned ahead.
Cultivate outside relationships.
- Meryl lived there for 8? yrs and hadn't gone outside her circle of just the two of them, so when Lou passed, she had no support system/friends locally.
Financial/Future planning
- My BIL's brother passed recently of a terminal illness and claimed he had a will/trust in place when my BIL (who was to be the executor) visited and wanted to get paperwork done before he passed, he claimed it was done. Well - it wasn't. The estate is now in a mess and nothing can go to who he wanted it to.
- Lou was much older than Meryl, but she had no idea how to run his business and there was no plan for the fact he would likely pass before her. Wills/etc were also not done, but were in the planing stages.
- Less than a month ago my best friend unexpectedly passed, and though they seemed extremely organized financially, and were fairly well off -- there too will/trusts were only in the planning stages.
Folks, if this spurs us all on to make sure our will/trusts/plans/etc are in place, something good will have come of this horrible tragedy.
Folks, one of you is going to die first. It might not be you. Prepare for that. Prepare for it if you're single, too, because somebody's going to be left dealing with the fallout.
Please plan financially and otherwise, for a life without your spouse - I've read/been told by therapists the death of a spouse is considered the most traumatic thing anyone can go through and trust me, after the fact you'll really appreciate you'd planned ahead.
Cultivate outside relationships.
- Meryl lived there for 8? yrs and hadn't gone outside her circle of just the two of them, so when Lou passed, she had no support system/friends locally.
Financial/Future planning
- My BIL's brother passed recently of a terminal illness and claimed he had a will/trust in place when my BIL (who was to be the executor) visited and wanted to get paperwork done before he passed, he claimed it was done. Well - it wasn't. The estate is now in a mess and nothing can go to who he wanted it to.
- Lou was much older than Meryl, but she had no idea how to run his business and there was no plan for the fact he would likely pass before her. Wills/etc were also not done, but were in the planing stages.
- Less than a month ago my best friend unexpectedly passed, and though they seemed extremely organized financially, and were fairly well off -- there too will/trusts were only in the planning stages.
Folks, if this spurs us all on to make sure our will/trusts/plans/etc are in place, something good will have come of this horrible tragedy.